People, who have spent a lot of time together, may come to a conclusion that their sexual life is not like it used to be and every sexual act is only seen as a duty, which you have to fulfill. If you feel that it is about your sexual life, or if you are interested in learning what you should do not to make sex routine, read our list of conditions under which your intimacy will always stay fresh.
How to make sex not routine?
There will be no routine in sex if there is no lack of kisses. Just imagine, if you do not kiss, or kiss very rarely, your relationship has turned into a usual way of life, boring and passionless. If you do not want to make your sexual relationship a thing of routine, forget about kissing your partner on the forehead too. Weren’t you the ones, who could kiss for hours, without noticing that the jaws and tongue cannot move! Always kiss your partner on her lips, corner of her mouth, neck…
There will be no routine in sex if you and your partner do not undress on your own. Passionate lovers usually rip each other’s clothes off; or on the contrary delay the process of taking the underwear off turning it into an erotic performance. Unfortunately, couples, who have been together for a long time, do not want to bother and spend their precious time and efforts doing something like that. It is more practical to undress without anybody’s help, save the underwear and get under the blanket to start the process. It does not look very sexy, does it?
There will be no routine in sex if the place where you are having sex is ready for that. Kids’ toys in your bed, a TV shouting the latest news, laundry, lying on the chair waiting to be put into the washing machine, dirty dishes and a half-eaten apple on the table… Yuk. Of course, this is a part of our everyday life, but sexual relationship is something extraordinary, so make the setting and the atmosphere proper for such an act.
There will be no routine in sex if you smell good. Your wife or girlfriend has cooked the most delicious toasts with garlic sauce, which added to the onion soup and barbeque chicken, which you have just eaten. Can you imagine having sex with such aroma coming out of your mouth with a new woman? I doubt it. Why then cleaning your teeth or using a mouthwash seems not necessary with a woman, who you have known for a long time?
There will be no routine in sex if there is no silence in bed. We understand that there are neighbors, who you will definitely see next morning. Of course, there might be children, who you do not want to wake up with your animal roar. There are other relatives, who could be living with you, but… apart from physiological pleasure you two have to get moral satisfaction, about which you can forget if neither of you exclaims “Oh..”, or “Yes, baby”, etc. Silent sex has nothing in common with love.
There will be no routine in sex if you compliment your partner. Why should you say something like “You look great!” to your wife if she always looks great at home? It is her usual state! Why should you praise her steak, which is absolutely fantastic? As usual… Or say “You were amazing!” after wonderful sex, which you have just had… as usually… It is strange, but if you do not want to make your sex routine, you must say something nice to your partner.
There will be no routine in sex if you do not start talking about routine issues immediately after the sexual act. If your bed sheet is still warm and you are discussing something like when to change the wallpaper in the kitchen or when to make an appointment with the child’s doctor, you will hardly remember how wonderful your sex was and it will become a part of your routine life. Give yourself some time to memorize the emotions you have had during sex and share your feelings with your partner and you will never turn your intimacy into banal “sexual exercises”.